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Recommendations ~ Healing Your Attachment Wounds by Diane Poole Heller

Healing Your Attachment Wounds: How to Create Deep and Lasting Intimate Relationships. This audio book is actually narrated by Diane, it is like having a personal session with her. She has a soothing voice and while it is sensitive topics that are covered, it is like a safe, deep personal conversation.

Diane is a psychotherapist specializing in trauma recovery and the healing of early Attachment wounds, specifically how they later affect our adult relationships. She has been teaching for several decades, seen over 1,400 clients, and traveled all over the world to share essential lessons and tools for relationships: "Most of our relationship struggles could be reversed if we had a map to understand our behaviors, especially when they are unconscious."

A dear friend suggested this book to me to assist in my personal healing journey. It was, and still is, a life changing book for me and eternally grateful for the changes it has instigated.

The Four Attachment Styles:

  1. Secure Attachment

  2. Avoidant Attachment

  3. Ambivalent Attachment

  4. Disorganised Attachment

After learning the attachment styles listed above, it opened my mind and heart to the realisation that the norm in this world is the traumatised dysfunctional adult and the rarity is the healthy secure functioning adult. Upon realising this, it helped me connect my own dots between the trauma and abuse stories I had cleverly compartmentalised, so that I could rebuild my life upon stronger, healthier foundations.

Quoted from Amazon:

"Why do we experience recurring struggles in our relationships? And why do traumatic events―such as a physical injury, emotional threat, loss of a loved one, or other life crisis―so often awaken or amplify our sense of fear, anger, isolation, or helplessness?

From our earliest years, teaches Diane Poole Heller, we develop an attachment style that follows us through life, replaying in our intimate relationships, with our children, and at work. And traumatic events can deeply affect that core relational blueprint.

With Healing Your Attachment Wounds, a pioneer in attachment theory and trauma resolution brings together these two fields to help us understand and benefit from their complementary principles and methods.

This in-depth audio learning program sheds light on the three styles of insecure attachment―Avoidant, Ambivalent, and Disorganized―and the ideal fourth style of Secure attachment, where we enjoy a foundation of safety, adaptability, and intimacy with others.

The good news is that we can change, regardless of our early or current life experiences.

"As we heal and move toward Secure attachment," teaches Heller, "we become aware of triggers and patterns in our relationships. Our nervous system learns to be more regulated. Things don't throw us off so easily. And we open our capacity to love and experience greater compassion."

Through key principles, examples, and practical exercises, this program invites you to begin your own healing journey toward healthy vulnerability, wholeness, and connection with others."

Blessings, Mim

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