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Recommendations ~ The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

A succinct guide to self healing based on ancient Toltec wisdom.

The Four Agreements offers an insightful perspective into human suffering and is also a helpful tool to help perceive your own uniqueness and not as an extension of others.

It is a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform your life to experience a new sense of freedom, true happiness and love.

I first came across this book well over 12 years ago. It was one of the first books I read starting my spiritual healing journey. It was the concept, 'don't take anything personally' that initiated one of my greatest initial internal shifts. It helped me not only comprehend but also create the distance between myself and feeling totally responsible for someone else's happiness, life experience and pain. I was able to visualise, therefore conceptualise, seeing myself in my own goop, but also the other person in their goop and comprehending that it was not my responsibility to fix them, but focus on the inner turmoil I was experiencing.

The Four Agreements:

  1. - Be Impeccable With Your Word. In other words mean what you say and say what you mean.

  2. - Don't Take Anything Personally. The way someone thinks, feels, hears, speaks, interprets, or reacts to life is not because of you but rather due to their interpretation and personalisation of their life experiences and then projected outward.

  3. - Don't Make Assumptions. If things are not clear have the courage to ask for clarity and don't believe everything you think.

  4. - Always Do Your Best. Why do anything less than your best? If you feel less than inclined to do your best at whatever is you do, then you must ask yourself why? Why are you happy living a less than 'your best life'? You don't get to come back and do all this again! Your life right now, is it!

As an extra exercise, try completing these 4 quotes from the book:

1) Be Impeccable with your word: Impeccability of the word can lead you to….’

2) Don’t take anything personally: There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when…’

3) Don’t make assumptions: The day you stop making assumptions you will….’

4) Always do your best: ‘When you don’t do your best you are denying…’

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